Been bumbling through life up to this point and figure it’s a grand time to pause and consider my purpose going forward. Might’ve jacked up the first half of life, but here we stand now, at what could be the midpoint of life (assuming I live to age 72). Didn’t know how to guide myself too well the first bit, but it’s taught me a lot so I can’t entirely regret it for its lessons. Have to learn some way. Trial and error.
Anyway, I got to thinking tonight while watching a video from Pastor Joe Fox, after having listened to a few by him since discovering his channel recently. Paused to ponder and write down the thoughts that sprang to mind when contemplating what may be my purpose from here on out. What matters and what direction I personally wish to aim in. Basically loosely outlined a few goals/values/areas of focus. What I jotted down:
1.) To learn more and become skilled at various worthwhile tasks.
- Sustainability (or at least the move toward that) matters.
- Curiosity is actually a positive attribute.
- Consider what’s of base-level, fundamental value to us human beings.
2.) LOVE MATTERS. Tough love included.
- Connection matters.
- Love of family, friends, values…
3,) No pain, no gain. Challenges are necessary for growth. Pick your poison.
- I want to keep growing.
- Respect matters.
4.) Quality of Life deserves attention.
- Past, present, future, successors.
- Consequences arise regardless of what may be our intentions.
5.) Personal Autonomy is sacred and God-given.
- Hence our natural right to self-defense.
- One is not merely a cog within a collective, but nor is one an island unto oneself.
- Freedom matters, but so does Sacrifice. Find the BALANCE.
6.) What is that which we call God? What does God seem to direct me toward?
- And how does one really know when it’s not just Ego playing its typical games? Discernment required. Meditation/prayer. Deep reckoning over time.
That’s a start. Put it in writing. Reflected on it this evening. Could’ve added more, and did in a couple places.
Preparation matters too. I won’t claim to be of much use to others currently, aside from being cared about by my friends and loved ones (and tending to my job), but I do want more out of my life than what I have constructed thus far. The word redemption keeps following me around, going on a few years now. Keeps insisting that it matters, saying that atonement is required for some of what I’ve done, lest I never be able to forgive myself or the situations that arose as a result. Right or wrong, regardless of how many tell me to let it go and move on, this feeling stays with me, nags at me, proclaims itself to be real. And so apparently I must accept that and figure out what it wants from me. And I guess I will try to give it what it wants , if that’s the cost of some measure of eventual peace. So be it.
Have nothing better to do anyhow. Except languish in this apartment when I’m not working, watching the wheels go ’round and ’round, ruminating on so much that cannot be changed, that’s done and over with, regardless of fault or blame or regrets. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust…
I look forward to however many years I get to experience in this next half of life. To see where it might go, to shape what I might become. There have been a lot of blessings in life too, and I am grateful, though there’s a lot that’s made me bitter. Gotta work that out, gotta direct that energy somewhere more productive. Otherwise life will likely turn out to feel long and pointless, aimless, meaningless…lost. That’s no good. But it does appear a bit daunting, knowing how much I wish I knew but don’t. To figure out how and what to learn while restricted to living where I do for the time being, rather isolated in the city. But I see what is within my control currently and know where to direct my attention more to begin with, so that’s where I’ll keep plugging away and expanding. The first steps in a better direction.
Helps to have something to look forward to. To realize what’s a better option, a more worthwhile struggle, and to start heading that way.
Been pondering vaguely along these lines for many years now, but it’s all finally starting to crystallize this year. Coming together, making better sense to me. That being a blessing unto itself. So, that’s where my mind is right now.