Gonna wade back into this topic today since a video on my YT channel that was created 2 years ago continues to attract animosity in the comment section, most of the responses having little if anything to do with my gripe stated within the video which pertained to expressing disgruntlement over some of these guys fear-mongering one another into not even accepting females as friends. I’ve already stated on here and on YT countless times where I stand on various matters pertaining to gender-related social justice concerns, and I do tire of repeating myself to folks with absolutely no interest in hearing me out or establishing any kind of dialogue. Winds up being a waste of my time, and indeed I let these “manosphere” movements online take up a tremendous amount of my time over the 3 years I was observing them. That largely came to a close a year back since it’s become a tedious bore dealing with most of these folks.
But what I wish to bring up today is how they, like so many other groups and movements, form a mob mentality and employ the mob strategy in the ways they communicate with others online. This appears to be the norm for many groups, hence why I’m not a fan of any group. That grouping up and coming at people aggressively in an effort to bombard them, thinking they’ll intimidate others into pulling videos down or shutting up is a cowardly modus operandi. If they don’t know that then they should. I see it for the bullying attempt that it is, but that shit doesn’t work on me. I leave the video up specifically to showcase the comments left on it. Because it’s precisely that which I’ve been aiming to point to all along when taking issue with this internet “phenomenon.” Hyper-aggressive, blame-casting, talking point-spewing (ad nauseum), strawman-constructing, fear-projecting, highly-exaggerated claims and pitiable assholishness — that’s what much of it turns out to be. And not only is it tiring to continue reading (seeing as how I typically read all comments that come my way) but it’s become pointless. Genuine interaction is all but impossible with members of such a group since they’re more interested in recruiting people to their cause via using channels like mine to use as a soapbox for repeating their mantras, actual topic in question be damned. No real communication is likely to come about when dealing with people blinded by that sort of group/movement mentality. That was true for rabid feminists and it’s true for these jerks too, much as they don’t like to hear that.
Guess I’m not entirely sure how to handle the situation. Leave my showcase up even though it clearly demonstrates that I apparently liked to pick fights with stupid? lol Pull the video down and ignore them so that these guys will hopefully move on and get lives? Eh, I doubt that’ll happen since when I mark videos private or unlisted they tend to just move over to other videos on my channel and start jabbering in those comment sections instead, even in music video comment sections. They’re determined to have their voices made public anywhere and everywhere, like graffiti scribbled all over the internet landscape. Should I start blocking these people so that my other commenters don’t have to deal with reading their vitriol? Personally not much into blocking people except in rare cases, but I’m also not a fan of letting particularly vocal mobs take over the scene and destroy the pleasure of using the internet either. Should I just let them have their heyday on my channel and create a second channel where the comment sections are more closely monitored and pruned? Maybe so.
All I know is that day after day, month after month, year after year, I continue to receive so many comments barking and barking and barking at me and womankind in general for all sorts of perceived wrongs. On and on and on and on and on and on it goes. Where it stops, nobody knows. Does it make any difference? No, not really. Does it help anybody? I doubt it. Does it create more hostility than is necessary? Absolutely. Are we learning anything from having the same talking points repeated again and again and again and again, angrily and accusatorily? No. Past a certain point it becomes useless chatter. Seems intended to raise ire rather than to address anything truly meaningful, let alone to encourage people to gather at the drawing board to discuss possible solutions or to establish worthwhile dialogue so as to better comprehend one another’s perspectives. So it’s become totally and completely useless, this never-ending chatter generated by the frustrated and stuck.
Well, I’m not stuck, at least not any longer. And I wish to continue growing and learning and living and challenging myself with new ideas and information. Already heard plenty of what these guys have to say, over and over and over again. If they’re wanting sympathy, they’re going about this the wrong way. If they’re wanting understanding, they’re certainly going about things the wrong way. But I assume their primary goal is simply to give an ongoing “fuck you” to female members of the population, as a type of sport or hobby of sorts. That’s just how they entertain themselves apparently. Which is to say they aren’t really about shit. They’re angry and need to blame somebody, preferably a whole lot of people, probably because they can’t see the parts of the problem that lie within themselves. Hey, we all got problems and we all have reasons to be angry at times, but at some point we have to come to terms with the fact that we do indeed have a lot of control over our own lives and their directions or at least how we handle the circumstances that come our way. I can bitch and gripe with the best of ’em too, and what’s it ever gotten me other than a reputation for being angry and volatile? Not to mention raised my own stress levels and trapped me in regressive cycles since I was unwilling or unable to take my own power back and apply it as I’m able.
They don’t like to hear this. I know. They love to tell me how women’s opinions don’t matter. But au contraire, our opinions obviously do matter to them or they wouldn’t waste so much time and energy barking on and on and on at us. They’d simply go about their lives. They’d find ways to circumvent the system they take so much issue with. They’d seek to expand and grow rather than sitting there at their keyboards stagnating, pretending their “red pill” perspective is the broadest and most comprehensive perspective available.
Something life has been teaching me is that I blame others the harshest when I am most unhappy with my own self and my own progress. I lash out the cruelest when I am feeling defeated and weak. And when I’ve concentrated the most on the past and all of its trials and tribulations, at those times I have been most afraid of what the future holds or how I am to navigate it effectively.
Fear is a fact of life. So is disappointment and pain and sorrow and suffering. No one is immune. Luck shakes out in countless different ways across the spectrum of humanity. With privilege tends to come some sort of downside, some correlated limitation or consequence. It isn’t all fair nor will it ever be. That is a pipe dream of modern folks with too much time on their hands and too many ideals in their heads that haven’t been put to the test on the pavement of Life. We win some and we lose some, and that’s true for any of us.
The group mentality is an unnerving phenomenon, speaking as one individualist out in the crowd. The time has passed for me to concern myself with all of that. Either buck up and come on, or stay back and cry among yourselves. The choice is yours and only yours. That’s what I have to tell myself so you’re damned right it’s precisely what I must tell these frustrated shit-talkers with nothing better to aim for than to spread hatefulness and divisiveness. There isn’t anything any of the rest of us out here can do to improve your situation, nor would we even want to lend a hand when you come at us with hostile attitude problems, fellow strangers on the internet. Life is simply not that black and white, that clear-cut and easy to assign people to camps so as to judge and dismiss them. You’ll miss out on a lot of worthwhile opportunities by employing that tactic in your social relations.
May your perceptions continue to evolve. That’s my prayer today for that group of individuals.